This morning we read Psalm 133 about the beauty of brethren dwelling together in unity. At breakfast we all talked about what has helped us in our efforts to be best friends.
One thing that has helped me build good relationships with my brothers and sister is realizing that it is my fault if I feel tension because nothing can take away my joy when it is coming from the Lord. Tension is a signal that I need to examine myself. Once, someone was talking about a fantastic revelation from God that I already knew. I started judging them and wondering why thy thought that was so new and profound. So I prayed. God seemed to say, “Michael, you could afford to be reminded of that.” My attitude began to change and I was glad they had discovered that truth and the tension left.
Just knowing that my brothers and Esther are trying to be friends really helps us feel like friends. I know we all want to accept and like each other. A big thing is being glad to see each other after a time of separation. Another thing is coming to the rescue for each other. Once we were all talking and I said something really embarrassing. Instead of saying, “”Oh Jonathan!” one of my brothers said something that covered it up and made it look like a joke. It saved me from a embarrassing moment!
I like my siblings because they are fun to be around. A big part of it is yielding rights instead of being selfish. I appreciate how when I tell them how excited I am about something (like the fact that its snowing) they are excited too instead of ignoring me. Their example makes me want to yield my rights and be fun to be around too.
A key of sibling harmony is to not give up when you are struggling in your relationships. Expect imperfections and be willing to communicate to resolve misunderstandings. Perfection is a long term project. When we get up late (like this morning) it seems like the day is messed up already. In this situation, the first step was to confess that I didn’t get up when I first woke up. Then I decided to leave it in God’s control and start doing what needed done. Moving forward instead of dwelling on the fact that we had messed up helped me to keep the situation from getting in-between me and others.
Becoming familiar with the love languages has helped me to channel God’s love to my brothers, just like I would to build any other friendship. My brothers have often done this for me. Donald helps me with my housework very often, Jonathan and I send each other chat messages even if we are sitting on computers next to each other in the same room (It’s just fun, that’s all), David and I played a game in the car on the way home from Indianapolis yesterday. While pealing apples or washing dishes, Daniel and I have had deep discussions on debatable things we’ve heard. Robert is so willing to bail me out if I’m in a pinch (like when I thought I had bought a plane ticket home and I really hadn’t, he used his bonus miles to buy me one!). Gifts, words of encouragement, physical touch, quality time together, and acts of service are the most common ways of communicating love.
A theme that runs through all of these is the important realization that as a Christian family we are all on the same side of the struggle. Lots of you are reading this and maybe it’s triggered an idea on what has built family unity in your home. Leaving a comment about your thought would be very much appreciated! May the Lord bless you all with the selfless joy of the Christmas Season today and all through the year!